The Business Of Unfinished Business

“Unfinished business lingers like a shadow — it follows you until you finally face it.”

Very random ang post na ito. Essentially, lahat ng draft posts ko that I wanted to delete to declutter, but the content, minsan title lang, was too good to be deleted. So here they are, I'm sharing them with you in random order, and there are no timestamps; the earliest entry was from 2019. Hulaan ninyo na lang kung alin.

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Mga Bunga ng Kahapon

"Gaano kahirap ang umusad at iwan ang nakaraan kung ang buhay mo ngayon ay puno ng ala-ala ng kahapon?"

Sabado ng umaga, kakatapos lang ni Andrea sa kanyang trabaho.

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Our Team Was Crucified For Logging Too Many OTs

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Why I Cut Off People So Easy

"I never want to give people an impression that disrespecting me will be so easy because I forgive so easily."

Many people took advantage of me in the past because I let them. That time, I looked as if I was too afraid of confrontation, that instead of fighting for what I knew was right, I'd rather say yes and get on with my life as if nothing happened. But that's all in the past, do some crazy shit on me now and you'll be history tomorrow. You see, it took me years to get to this point. It took a lot of practice. It took a lot of yeses that should have been nos. It took a lot of happiness outside, but deep inside I screamed in anger.

Let me tell you three stories of how I got to this point...

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I Hate People Who Don't Know How to Respect Others' Rest: Anecdotes from Sleeping and Everything in Between

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I Left My Job For Petty Reasons

"You know what, these reasons you have are all petty. If you've only raised these things to the right people, these could have been addressed immediately."

These are the exact lines that I heard from one of the people who received my first resignation letter. Yes, first, because I have to revise my resignation letter for them to accept it. But what exactly are my reasons this person has the audacity to call them petty?

I really thought that this company was the one for me to grow my roots. Aside from the fact that it's very near to my residence, the people whom I was able to speak with during my interview were really proud of what the company has done for them.

Now let me tell you my story from the day I started my training until the last day of my 30-day notice.

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I Don't Give A F*ck: What It's Like to Only Listen To People Who Matter

"When people hear good things about you, they stay silent. When they hear bad things about you, they spread it like wildfire. But when they hear nothing about you, they make things up."

This is from a video that I watched on Facebook. Something random, yes. But very true. Life hasn't always been good to me. Things that made me come up with decisions when viewed by an outsider would be perceived that part of me as the entirety of my whole being. I committed mistakes that I already regretted for even thinking about them. I burned bridges with some people because I knew then that they would never be good for me as an individual. For all of these, I learned how to forgive myself, made peace with all my shortcomings, and moved forward so I could experience things that were only dreams in my past.

When people hear good things about you, they stay silent. People who matter celebrate your achievements and success.

When they hear bad things about you, they spread it like wildfire.

But when they hear nothing about you, they make things up.

However, it's important to remember you cannot control what others say about you or how they perceive you. Instead, focus on being the best version of yourself. And let your actions speak for themselves. Over time, your character and integrity will shine through. And the people who matter most will recognize and appreciate you for who you are.

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Will Miss My Comfort Show: The Heartbreak of Saying Goodbye to The Big Bang Theory on Netflix

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Today, I Was Called Gay At Work

"This was my first time getting called gay in a derogatory way since graduating high school."

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Para Saan Ang Bukas

"Do what is right, not what is easy."

Ito ang line na pinaka-natatandaan ko nang manuod ako ng Fantastic Beasts: Secrets of Dumbledore.

Eleksyon time na naman. Oras na naman para muli tayong mamili ng mga taong gagawa ng kapalaran ng ating bansa sa mga susunod na taon. Bakit nga ba natin kailangan ng mga taong mamumuno sa ating bansa? Ano nga ba ang responsibilidad natin bilang isang botante? Bilang isang Pilipino?

May mga pagkakataon na mas mahirap lunukin ang pride natin kaysa sa paglunok ng sobrang init na kanin. Pero bakit nga ba natin kailangang lunukin ang ating mga pride?

Ako, bilang isang ordinaryong mamamayan, naranasan ko na ang hindi kumain sa isang buong araw at naranasan ko na rin ang kumain ng limang beses sa isang araw. Pero ano bang kinalaman ng mga taong mauupo sa katungkulan sa kung ilang beses ako kumain at kakain sa loob ng isang araw?

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It's You, Only You

"Reasons for loving someone don't have to be complicated."

Nabasa ko 'yan sa isang public Facebook post. Totoo naman. Dati akala ko saying I love you because I love you was enough. But as I grew older, I realized that there must be something in that person that made me love him. I acknowledge the scientific explanation of falling in love, but from a hopeless romantic point-of-view, I want to share why I can say I love you.

Ngayong ikaw na ang nasa harapan ko, hindi na ako magsasayang ng oras at sasabihin ko na sa'yo kung bakit kita minamahal.

Sa ngiti mo pa lang nahuli mo na ang puso ko. My world suddenly stops whenever I see your sweet smile, ang tamis na parang gusto kong tikman by kissing you until the day when I can no longer kiss you.

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Sana Bukas Sa Paggising Mo

"Sana bukas sa paggising mo ang bigat na iyong nadarama ay maglaho na nang tuluyan."

Alam ko, nahihirapan ka na. Namnamin mo ang hirap sa ngayon dahil sigurado ako, bukas o makalawa, mawawala din 'yan. Ito ang paulit-ulit kong sinasabi sa aking sarili. But how true can this be? Most of the time, I feel like I'm just kidding myself.

Heartbreaks always give me the worst pain. Ang hirap kumilos, halos ayaw kong bumangon sa tuwing ang alarm ng phone ko eh tutunog. I've been through this before and yes, I was able...

Moving Out Blues and Stresses

"But these last 60 hours have been eye-opening to me."

It's been 25 days since I officially move out of my apartment in Quezon City. It's also this long already that I've been living with my boyfriend. As of today, I'm not sure if moving in before we even reach two years of being together is a great decision.

I love my partner, very much. I love talking to him before going to sleep at night and seeing him first when I wake up in the morning. I love spending my free time with him even in total silence and just having him beside me.

But these last 60 hours have been eye-opening to me. For context, his mother arrived last Monday from the province due to a family affair that they have this coming weekend. And ever since her arrival, she has changed and moved a lot of the things, some furniture, and fixtures, that I re-arranged to make our stay in the apartment optimized for our work-from-home set-up. And I'm not okay with all the changes that she did.

This apartment that my boyfriend and I are renting right now is previously rented by his family (mother, brother, sister, and his sister's boyfriend). Right now, his mother is officially residing in their hometown and that makes her our visitor.?. His brother occupies the second bedroom when he works on-site three times a week and then goes back to the province to spend time with his family. And I think my boyfriend and his brother have an agreement that his brother will contribute an amount monthly for our electricity consumption. His sister and his sister's boyfriend already moved to their own house in the nearby province. As for the bills, aside from the contribution of his brother, it's 50-50 between my boyfriend and me. As far as I'm concerned, only my boyfriend and I are the official residents of our apartment right now. Or am I wrong?

In this situation, I have this idea that if his mother would like to move things around the apartment, she would need to ask permission from both of us first and not just from my boyfriend. And when I woke up last Tuesday afternoon to all these changes, I went ballistic on my boyfriend. I know that I could have said things better and there's no excuse for how I reacted. And I'm so sorry for that.

As to my issue with my boyfriend, my thingking is that my boyfriend should have said no when her mother was moving things around because it should be up to my boyfriend and me and not just my boyfriend since we both agreed to these changes with compromises from the two of us. As to what his mother did, I feel so disrespected. Wala naman sigurong magugustuhan na may bisita ka sa bahay mo at bigla-bigla na lang pakikialaman ng bisita ang mga pinag-aayos mo nang hindi nagpapaalam sayo.

So with this event, I feel like I'm not ready for his family to get into things that should only involve my boyfriend and me. And I think I will never be.

The only thing that I can logically think of doing is letting the changes be for now and I'll just move them back to where they were before when it's just my boyfriend and me again in the apartment. And yes, go out of the apartment from time to time to have a breath of fresh air and not be stressed about what just happened. So here I am, enjoying a glass of this decaf iced choco mochaluya all by myself at seven in the morning.