- Ace
- Aug 25, 2022
- 3 min read
Updated: Jul 23, 2023
"But these last 60 hours have been eye-opening to me."
It's been 25 days since I officially move out of my apartment in Quezon City. It's also this long already that I've been living with my boyfriend. As of today, I'm not sure if moving in before we even reach two years of being together is a great decision.
I love my partner, very much. I love talking to him before going to sleep at night and seeing him first when I wake up in the morning. I love spending my free time with him even in total silence and just having him beside me.
But these last 60 hours have been eye-opening to me. For context, his mother arrived last Monday from the province due to a family affair that they have this coming weekend. And ever since her arrival, she has changed and moved a lot of the things, some furniture, and fixtures, that I re-arranged to make our stay in the apartment optimized for our work-from-home set-up. And I'm not okay with all the changes that she did.
This apartment that my boyfriend and I are renting right now is previously rented by his family (mother, brother, sister, and his sister's boyfriend). Right now, his mother is officially residing in their hometown and that makes her our visitor.?. His brother occupies the second bedroom when he works on-site three times a week and then goes back to the province to spend time with his family. And I think my boyfriend and his brother have an agreement that his brother will contribute an amount monthly for our electricity consumption. His sister and his sister's boyfriend already moved to their own house in the nearby province. As for the bills, aside from the contribution of his brother, it's 50-50 between my boyfriend and me. As far as I'm concerned, only my boyfriend and I are the official residents of our apartment right now. Or am I wrong?
In this situation, I have this idea that if his mother would like to move things around the apartment, she would need to ask permission from both of us first and not just from my boyfriend. And when I woke up last Tuesday afternoon to all these changes, I went ballistic on my boyfriend. I know that I could have said things better and there's no excuse for how I reacted. And I'm so sorry for that.
As to my issue with my boyfriend, my thingking is that my boyfriend should have said no when her mother was moving things around because it should be up to my boyfriend and me and not just my boyfriend since we both agreed to these changes with compromises from the two of us. As to what his mother did, I feel so disrespected. Wala naman sigurong magugustuhan na may bisita ka sa bahay mo at bigla-bigla na lang pakikialaman ng bisita ang mga pinag-aayos mo nang hindi nagpapaalam sayo.
So with this event, I feel like I'm not ready for his family to get into things that should only involve my boyfriend and me. And I think I will never be.
The only thing that I can logically think of doing is letting the changes be for now and I'll just move them back to where they were before when it's just my boyfriend and me again in the apartment. And yes, go out of the apartment from time to time to have a breath of fresh air and not be stressed about what just happened. So here I am, enjoying a glass of this decaf iced choco mochaluya all by myself at seven in the morning.